Child discipline in an intact family is a responsibility shared between Mom and Dad. Once there is a divorce the custodial parent will have to take on the majority of this responsibility.
Non-custodial parents should remain as actively involved in child discipline as possible but it only makes sense that the parent spending more time with the child will end up doing most of the work where discipline is concerned.
This is a guide for the custodial parent who may find themselves not only attempting to cope with the stress of being a single parent but also the impact of divorce on their child.
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my ex called and told me not to allow my son to go to his friends house and he was being punished. i said ok and would abide by her wishes.my son was adament about going to see his friends since i should be able to decide what to do since he was staying with me overnight.i kept saying no and he decided to stand up to me and decided he would walk to his friends house if i did not take him.i could not stop him no matter what i said, so i decided to drive him to his friends house as i did not want him to walk 3 miles to get to his friend.i was worried something might happen to him. my ex found out and went crazy on me that i went against her wishes.she fills like the bad person now and i am disneyland dad. my son has a very bad temper and he hates all the disciplining. what should i have done. hold my ground with my ex so we are consistent with his punishment or let him go as he would have left anyway.thanks!
Hello Nelson,
We understand that you have an issue. It is important that you and your ex spouse co-parent for the well-being of your child. This means that you take decision together, also when it comes to punishment. Like that, your son will not be able to take advantage of the situation. But it is important to know that we are not specialized in mediation or psychology. We will publish in a few times, a mini-guide about co-parenting that might help you. We would be happy to send you the link as soon as we can.
For now, we can recommend you a few readings :
http://life.familyeducation.com/slideshow/discipline/64782.html
http://blog.2houses.com/en/50-guidelines-for-divorcing-divorced-parents/
http://life.familyeducation.com/parenting/punishment/45302.html
Good luck
Blandine from 2houses